In marriage, many women believe lies about their role. Some women see their role as no more superior than that of their husbands, and some hold a wrong view of submission.
The word “obey” can cause tension in most rooms. However, from a biblical perspective and biblical approach, this word should not cause an increase in tension.
Instead, God created a unique marriage between man and woman. Everyone has their own role, but they don’t compete, but complement each other.
It is important to reflect on these truths rather than reject them. Women don’t need to believe lies about their role in marriage. Furthermore, women don’t need to believe any lies the world tries to tell us.
The world tends to target women and make them feel inferior, which is the devil’s strategy. Women are not inferior in any form or fashion. The Bible tells us that all men and women are equal (Galatians 3:28).
1. Women’s low status
One lie that women believe about their role in marriage is that they are inferior. Due to patriarchy, many women are taught from an early age that they are inferior, and this idea carries over into adulthood and into marriage.
Sadly, many churches teach this incorrect view and view men as superior. Nowhere in the Bible does God say that men are superior to women. Men and women are equal, created in the image of God (Genesis 1:27).
Women are not inferior. Although the world has come a long way, there is still a long way to go, especially in the Christian community. Women should not be viewed as “less than” or as a “weaker partner”.
In fact, women are equal to men and not weaker than men. Women are not only responsible for giving birth to children; This requires a lot of strength, endurance and perseverance. No one should think of women as inferior because that is not true and it is not biblical.
Jesus loved women and He walked beside them during His earthly ministry. He did not treat them as inferior, nor did he ignore them.
The Christian community today needs to pay special attention to this. They view women as inferior, which is unbiblical. Likewise, husbands do not need to treat their wives as inferior because they are their equals.
2. obey everything
The second lie women believe about their role in marriage is that they must submit to everything. This is not true because women are not required to obey everything their husband says. They are required to obey only if it is biblical.
If your husband tells you to do something that goes against the Bible, you are under no obligation to do it. If your husband has been verbally, mentally, physically, or sexually abusive to you, know that you can leave him and file for divorce.
God is not calling you to stay in an abusive marriage. Sadly, many men use their submissive side to abuse their wives. This happens all the time in Christian communities and it’s something that needs more discussion.
Women don’t need to give in to people who hurt them, and husbands shouldn’t abuse their wives first. Instead, husbands and wives need to love, respect, and have compassion for each other.
If you feel insecure in your marriage, you need to ask someone for help. Reach out to a friend, parent, or therapist. Any one of these people can help you and provide you with the security you need.
Don’t think you have to stay in every situation. Instead, know when it’s time to step out and learn what God actually says about marriage. God never tells a woman to be with a man who is abusive, possessive, and abuses Bible verses against her.
3. Endure everything
The third lie women believe about their role in marriage is that they have to put up with everything. Similar to submitting to everything, women should not put up with anything from their husbands.
Even though you are married to this man, it doesn’t mean you have to be with him. You must not tolerate insults, threats or physical abuse. God does not approve of this relationship. Instead, he condemned it.
Husbands should love their wives and care for her as their own body (Ephesians 5:28). As one can see, there is no space for a woman to tolerate abuse or endure every hurtful word that is said against her.
Marriage should be a beautiful thing that reflects Christ and the Church to the world. A husband is not doing this if he allows his wife to endure his fears.
Sadly, many men can become possessive of their wives, and their wives can become their punching bag. Don’t allow yourself to continue to be in this situation. You need to leave, notify the police, and stay with a trusted friend or family member.
4. Not that important
The fourth lie women believe about their role in marriage is that they are not as important as their husbands. This is far from the truth as women are just as important as men.
In the Bible we do not see God saying that husbands are more important than wives. Instead, we see their characters complement each other.
It is only when these roles are fulfilled that we see a reflection of Jesus and the Church. We see this through the husband’s love for his wife and how he protects, loves and cares for her.
As a woman in a relationship, you need to know that you are just as important as your husband. You and your husband both have a responsibility to show Christ to a lost world.
You have to work as a team and help each other. You can’t do this if you don’t think you’re as important as your husband. Your husband is important, but he is not more important than you. You and your husband are equally important and equally loved by God.
5. Your life goals
The fifth lie women believe about their role in marriage is their life goals. Many women believe that their role in marriage is just to be a wife and have children.
The saying “pregnancy goes barefoot” didn’t come out of nowhere, as many women believe this is their life sentence.
If you are married, know that your entire life does not consist of your husband, your marriage, or your children. If you find your whole life and your eternity in Christ. Don’t lose your purpose in church rules or legalistic teachings.
The purpose of a woman’s life is not to get married and have children. Rather, her purpose is to serve Christ and help others know Him (Matthew 28:18-20).
Women have the same responsibility to participate in the Great Commission. Although there is nothing wrong with getting married and having children, it is not the only purpose of a woman’s life. Instead, for some women, it’s just one aspect of it.
Further reading:
5 lies women believe about their place in the family
5 Lies Women Believe About Their Role in the Church
What is the biblical definition of marriage?
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Vivian Bricker Love Jesus, study God’s Word, and help others walk with Christ. She holds BA and MA degrees in Christian Ministry with an in-depth academic emphasis in theology. Her favorite things to do are spending time with family and friends, reading, and spending time outdoors. When she’s not writing, she’s embarking on other adventures.
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