“Enjoy sex with your own wife. May the wife you married in your youth continue to bring you joy. May she be as beautiful and beautiful as a fawn. May her breasts always make you happy. May she love in a way that brings you joy you. (Proverbs 5:18-19)
Pornography is sneaky because people are often exposed to it in the dark, it has addictive qualities, and it creates unrealistic expectations for sex within a marital relationship. Pornography does not paint a picture of a healthy, loving sexual relationship. At best, it stirs up lustful passions within the viewer, which can lead to other problems such as masturbation, adultery, or unattainable sexual intimacy. It becomes unattainable, not because of your spouse, but because you have expectations that no one can meet.
Healthy and satisfying sexual relationships are based on mutual love, mutual respect, and a shared desire for mutual satisfaction. None of these things exist in pornography. When you bring these thoughts to your marriage bed, you are setting yourself up for failure.
One of the greatest joys of marriage is being able to express your sexuality in a relationship with someone you know loves you and cares about you in and out of the bedroom. This level of desire, expression and communication cannot be replicated in any type of pornography.
As a married person, you don’t need porn to enhance your sexual experience because it won’t. If you spend time together and learn to communicate, both in and out of the bedroom, it will allow you to create more fun than any porn can.
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