Has anyone ever told you that you are too happy? Or has anyone ever told you that you smile too much? My guess is probably never.
So why is it that whenever we experience a negative emotion, whether it’s sadness, despair, or melancholy, we’re often told that the emotion has a time limit and that we need to get over it. Expressing feelings of loneliness, sadness, fear, or just plain unhappiness is also inherently taboo in today’s society.
My brother died when he was 12, leaving such a huge void in our lives that our family grieved his death for decades. Fortunately, we are raised to accept that this is a completely normal and natural process for us. We all understand that we work through our feelings of grief and loss in our own way and at our own pace. We don’t grieve according to a schedule or society’s rules.
A helpful way I find to think about feelings and how to process them is to think of our emotions as being processed by our hearts and minds, just like food is processed by our bodies. Just like food, we need to break down, digest, and absorb the lessons and insights in our emotions as “nutrients” for soul growth.
Just like no one needs to tell your body what to do or how to digest the food you eat, no one needs to tell you how to deal with your emotions. We all have our own innate process that is perfect for each of us and serves us in perfect, natural order. But when outside influences or sources try to intervene, even with the best of intentions, things often start to go wrong.
Never apologize for expressing feelings. When you do this, you apologize for the truth~ Benjamin Disraeli
The feelings we should repress have to go somewhere. If we ignore them, they won’t go away. Instead, they are stored deep in the subconscious and in our cellular memories, and if they are not allowed to be processed and released in a natural way, they will fester and become malignant until a solution is found, while causing great damage. Damage people’s physical and mental health.
When we come into this existence, into this particular dimension, one of the assets we have is the ability to own and own our thoughts and feelings in any situation. When did expressing negative emotions become a burden? How did they become positive or negative in the first place? Who said we can be happy but not sad?
Our ancestors were lucky. They are privileged in expressing their true feelings because they share practices and rituals that provide socially accepted ways of expressing and processing emotions such as grief, anger, and sadness. These practices play a vital role in the social fabric and mental health of a tribe or community.
In traditional societies, community gatherings and rituals are an integral part of emotional processing. When someone experiences loss or difficulty, communities come together to share the grief. Rituals and celebrations provide a framework for the collective expression of these emotions, strengthen social bonds, and provide a sense of belonging and support.
Many cultures have specific customs and traditions for grieving or dealing with difficult emotions. These customs often include periods of mourning, specific rituals, and practices designed to commemorate the deceased or acknowledge personal struggles. These activities are not just personal experiences, but shared community events that help people cope with difficult emotions in a supportive environment.
Living in a tight-knit community also allows for more immediate and ongoing support. There is less stigma associated with expressing vulnerability or sadness because these emotions are understood and respected as universal human experiences.
You will be whole again, but you will never be the same. You shouldn’t be the same, and you don’t want to be the same~ Elisabeth Kübler-Ross
In contrast, modern society places a heavy emphasis on positivity and productivity, which makes it difficult for us to openly express and process our negative emotions in a healthy way. There is a lot of pressure in society to always appear happy, energetic, and successful while suppressing or downplaying feelings of sadness, despair, or fear. Expressing negative emotions is seen as a sign of weakness or failure.
Today, we have to deal with our feelings in private rather than in social and public settings. This isolation can further exacerbate the negative emotions we experience and make it more difficult to seek or receive support. Even in the most progressive circles and countries, there is still a lot of stigma attached to mental health issues, which further prevents those suffering from seeking help or sharing their struggles openly.
I encourage you to interpret your own feelings and give yourself a personal time frame to allow these feelings to be digested and released as your gut feels. Never let anyone tell you how you should feel, or how long that feeling should last, or that you should “get rid of” or “move on” with something you feel deeply.
The more we act in a natural, authentic way, the healthier we become. Always feel free to have and express your true feelings.
Kitty is a Canadian intuitive who comes from a large family clairvoyance and downwind listener. She was a local celebrity, having been giving accurate predictions in her treatises for fifteen years, and was often invited to conduct séances and give readings at Vancouver’s psychic fairs.As a trained counselor, she combines her talents with Gift Uncover the root causes of obstacles and provide detailed psychological information and practical advice for success and happiness.She helped find missing items and people, relayed messages from deceased loved ones, and communicated with two people divine deva The information they provide is astonishingly accurate. If you’d like to connect with this extraordinary intuitive whose talents span generations, you can find Kitty at PsychicAccess.com. |