Understand and deal with infidelity and deception

Infidelity and cheating are painful experiences that can affect anyone regardless of gender, race, religion, orientation, or socioeconomic status. While cheating has been around for centuries, it can cause huge emotional turmoil and devastating consequences.

Psychic Liz is the signed author of this article.

As a counselor, I’ve noticed a spike in calls about infidelity over the past five years due to the popularity of social media and online dating. Here are some different perspectives on infidelity to help those affected cope and make informed decisions.

Infidelity and Cheating Advice: For the Betrayed Partner

1. Seek evidence, not suspicion:If you suspect your partner is cheating, don’t confront them unless you have concrete proof. Relying solely on intuition or behavioral changes may prompt your partner to be more cautious and make it harder to discover the truth. Gather tangible evidence before broaching the subject.

2. Find the answer to 5W: When betrayed, we desperately want to know who, what, where, when and why. However, don’t expect the whole truth at first, as cheaters often lie or downplay the situation. During the reading, I explore the cheater’s thoughts and emotions to determine if they are being honest or telling you what you want to hear. The “why” is often the hardest to rationalize, because love doesn’t guarantee fidelity.

3. Against third parties: If the third party is unaware of the situation, consider informing the third party about the situation. Often, a liar will lie to both parties. Revealing the truth regains a sense of control and makes it harder for the scammer to continue deceiving.

4. Decide to go or stay: There are no universally right or wrong answers here—just the answers that work best for you. Rebuilding the relationship may be possible, or leaving may be the healthier option. As you make this difficult decision and learn how to overcome infidelity, seek support from friends, family, or a counselor.

Infidelity and Cheating Advice: For “Other” People

Being a third party may feel exciting at first, but it can quickly turn into a painful experience. Understand the reality of the situation and ask yourself:

• Did a cheater really leave their partner for you?
• Do you have any concrete plans for your future together?
• Are you willing to be “the other” person indefinitely?
• Will you inevitably demand more than they are willing to give, leading to an endless cycle of dissatisfaction?

Reading for Infidelity Investigators Conveying a cheater’s innermost thoughts can provide valuable insights that can help you make informed decisions.

Infidelity and Cheating Advice: For Cheaters

Infidelity often starts out innocuously—a look, a smile, a conversation—and then escalates. Whether it’s because of unhappiness, loneliness, boredom or a whirlwind romance, there’s always a time to stop and consider the consequences of cheating before taking action.

If you seriously reflected on the potential consequences for all parties, would you still choose to cheat? Ultimately, your strength of self-love and integrity will guide your actions.

Infidelity and cheating are complex issues with no easy solutions. However, by understanding different perspectives and seeking guidance, those affected can make powerful choices to heal and move on. Remember, your resilience and self-worth can help you overcome the toughest mood swings.

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